myspokenheart

musings on life, love and laughter from my spoken heart to yours


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“Are we raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?” (Huffington Post)

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Mickey-goodman/are-we-raising-a-generati_b_1249706.html

I agree with this article, free range children is a thing of the past, letting our kids make choices and experience things on their own taught valuable life lessons that today’s generations are simply not getting. We are inflating our kids with the idea that anyone who wants to can be the next big thing, forgetting that there are outside circumstances that need to be taken into account above and beyond personal ability, drive and a lot of hard work. Speaking of ability, drive and hard work apparently those are not required for success any more (how on earth is that supposed to work?). Instead we do everything for our kids, setting them up for failure as adults.

I am not saying we shouldn’t support and protect our kids heaven forbid. But I am saying that awards for showing up aren’t legit. The real world is a hard place and sometimes it’s cold and cruel, and we need to prepare our kids for that. They need to know how to fail in order to actually succeed. They need to know how to think for themselves, make their own decisions and learn via their own personal experiences.

To me this stuff seems to be common sense, so why on earth do we need elaborate psychological studies to tell us this?


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Insecurity motivates stupidity…

teardropI have recently learned the lesson that texting is a poor method of communication and that one must think before hitting send. (One being me). That we can carelessly type something and send it without understanding, contemplating, knowing… how it may be taken. (We being me). I have realized that even though something may seem funny or clever as it is typed, how it will be perceived is another matter all together. There is no body language, voice inflection, or twinkle in the eye to indicate what was actually meant vs what the words may, or may not, actually say. Which basically translates as: I said something off hand in an attempt to hide emotions I was feeling and in turn hurt and emotionally wounded someone I deeply care about.

I’m sorry isn’t enough, but it’s all I have


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Day 65 – shouldn’t this be getting easier?

fol′low-through` (n.)

1. the completion of a motion.
2. the portion of such a motion after the ball has been hit.
3. the act of continuing a plan, project, scheme, or the like to its completion.

You would think by now that trying to post everyday for 100 days would be getting easier as we cross the halfway mark and enter the final stretch. But NO, I am finding it harder. I am feeling like I am just writing fluff in order to say I did a post. This is not what was intended. They say that after doing something everyday for so many days, it becomes a habit (problem is no one seems to agree on how many days that really is – I’ve read anywhere from 30, thru to 60). This has not become a habit. In some ways it has almost become dreaded. Instead of writing I stare down the computer and lose all brain function in the process…

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT?!?!

I need to complete this.

I am always making self commitments and then not following through with them.

Discipline. Self-discipline. DREADED words.

I will do this, and it shall not kill me.