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Death by complacency…


Do you think it is possible to die from complacency? Do you think our dreams and desires can just wither up and blow away in the wind? Do you believe that each person has a purpose? That every one of us is unique by design and has some sort of special function in society? A divine reason to be? Or do we just exist, be born, work, pay bills, get old, die?

I am starting to believe that complacency is the rot that slowly eats away at the soul leaving us to wander as metaphorical zombies through life. I think it consumes our moral fibre, it kills hope, desire, morale, incentive… causes us to just give up, and leaves behind a resounding cry of “meh, good enough.”

You know the catch phrases: “It’s the way it is and the way it’s always been.” “Get with the program.” “Your dreams won’t pay the bills or put food on your plate.” “Grow up and get your head out of the clouds.” “Just work harder and you’ll eventually catch your break.” blah, blah, blah the voices of the disenfranchised. (I gave up on my dreams now it’s your turn…)

As a society we seem to suffer from a severe case of settling. It’s easier to conform to the routine of life than to take the plunge and do what we were meant to do; LIVE! Fear holds back the masses. “But this is how it’s supposed to be, right?” but if this is how it’s meant to be then why, oh why are we all so unhappy, so blah, going through the motions eagerly pleading for our days off to arrive quickly, yet never feeling like they are enough? Working at jobs that we find mediocre at best just to barely pay the bills, never having that extra bit that we swear we will start setting aside next payday, every payday, so that one day we do whatever that dream of ours is… buy a boat, go on vacation, get the tools or art supplies or technology to make it a reality.

This morning on the way to work I was listening to the radio, I discovered that minimum wage is going up again: $0.40 an hour, come this September. I’m not sure that is going to make a huge difference to people trying to survive on it but it’s a step in the right direction. Anyways the announcers went on to say that according to recent studies in order for people to survive above the “poverty line” in the area I live minimum wage would need to be $17.10 per hour. That is more than I currently make an hour and is $6.85 more than the current minimum wage. No wonder so many people seem to have given up. No wonder complacency has enveloped the masses. We are tired of fighting a losing battle. An invisible war between the haves and the have-nots. And I am not just talking about people here, those who have and those who have-not, but rather dreams, I’m referencing the war of have and have-not for our dreams.

The sacrifices we have made, most likely not even on a conscious level, in order to survive (barely) in a society that promises to provide and give in abundance if we would just work a little harder, give a little more, yet in the end it only seems  to take and continues to demand more! more! more! until there is nothing left. Nothing but an empty husk that was once ripe and full of dreams and now is barren and withered like an old woman’s womb.

I seem to cycle through my complacency. It hits in waves. A wave crashes down and I feel so overwhelmed by it I cannot fathom moving forward. Then it recedes and I feel the sun’s warmth, I see it’s brilliance and I am filled with hope. I struggle to upright myself, to make my way across the beach, just as another wave crashes down on me. But I will not give up. Even if I have to crawl across the beach, enduring the pummeling waves. I will make it, I can see the line where the waves give way and cannot reach… I will make it. How about you?


Author: myspokenheart

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24 thoughts on “Death by complacency…

  1. I had to go back and read that last paragraph. Thanks, that means a lot. So let’s never give up and face life head on from the front lines then, shall we!!!

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  2. Stirring words.
    Your last paragraph could motivate a retreating army back to the front line.

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  3. I can really relate to this. I like how you use the term “society.” So often I’m tempted to say “the world” is screwed up, when, in fact, it’s really society, not the beautiful world. In fact, I think I could use a lot more of the world and a lot less of society… ~ In my own case, I’ve had to take a huge risk and make a big and rather shocking splash to shake things up and gain any semblance of a positive change for my life. And you very often don’t make a lot of friends doing that…, because other people are so dependent on you always being the same (for them…), whether it’s good for YOU or not… I’ve always liked the saying, “When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” In my own case, the universe “sent a car”, so to speak, and I’m in somewhat of a new life now. But still there are areas of maddening complacency, and, well, I just think I need to keep splashing. I’m saving up my bravery again…

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  4. “the war of have and have-not for our dreams” . . . so true. So perfectly said. Bleak. The haves sicken me with their million dollar this and their diamond that. How can they sleep at night when parents put their babies to bed hungry at night?

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  5. Great post, Andrea. The min wage is an issue in the UK too. I wonder when we’re on our death bed if we will wish we had worked harder or went for that promotion.

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  6. Phenomenal writing, and why oh why indeed are we so unhappy? Peace, Harlon

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  7. I enjoyed this post very much. I think because it was honest about how these waves can crash into us. I think the key is to find meaningful relationships wherever one is at. It seems to make all the difference. There are gifts we give one another that transcend market value. Gifts of presence and honesty that, once given, remind where true value lies. And they have effects that ripple outwards…


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  8. maybe
    I’m accepting
    my best
    is good enough
    and that is all
    I can give

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  9. Minimum wage should be at least $20 an hour in North America. The fact that it isn’t is definitely part of the problem. People cannot be motivated by jobs they hate when they know they’re being paid far less than their worth, and struggling all the way through. It’s similar to someone asking me if I’ll edit 10,000 words for $1. The answer is NO. Things have to change so that no one ever feels “stuck”.

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    • I think minimum wage should always be a living wage, and that it needs to be re-assessed annually and adjusted according to inflation. But as this is an imperfect world run by the haves who do not sacrifice profits (why they are the haves) it is not likely to be. That being said it is then up to the have nots to make the decision to rise above. Easier said than done, yes, but still doable. Just.don’t.give.up!


      • It absolutely should be a living wage with cost-of-living adjustments. Unfortunately, there is a higher cost of living in some areas and a lower cost in others, so I think the wage should be the same regardless of where one lives in order to be fair all across the board.

        If you’re a millionaire or billionaire, you should have to give a portion of your yearly income to charity OR back to the region in which you live.


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