Too FAT… Too Thin… really?? WTF???

March 15, 2013 by My Spoken Heart - Andrea Crowell 17 Comments

This is my rant… I am so fed up with the too thin too fat wars going on, on FB /the internet. People are mean and cruel, and so damned judgmental it makes me sick and breaks my heart.

I have 3 daughters – all with different builds. 2 of them are model thin – both wear size 3 and under. They are willowy and tall (5’8”ish) – and yet they are still built differently. The other is shorter (5’5”ish), curvy and very busty – around a size 7 . She is in NO WAY fat or obese. And yet the way people go on about size from both sides of the spectrum makes me ill. My thinner daughters have been teased and called anorexic, bulimic, too thin, gross, unhealthy, need I go on? And the other has been called fat, and made to feel unattractive, cutesy terms like “chubby” or “pudgy” do not soften the blow… These words hurt and promote negative self image. Why is it that no-one is good enough?

New Swedish Mannequins

I personally have been on both sides of this myself. Since my teens I have varied from a size 5 through to my current size 10, and have felt the sting of being called fat, chubby,etc. I have watched a movie and had the person I am with make a comment about some girl on the screen and how she is a “fat ass” and I consider my own build and think “wow! I must be a freaking elephant”.

I hear the way my own girls go on about other girls’ pictures on FB and my heart breaks. I think that we are what we are, and how did society become so judgmental? How did we become so cruel and unaccepting? How are we, both women and girls, to learn to love ourselves and accept our bodies when we are constantly putting each other, and ourselves down?

Recently there has been a large movement to embrace larger, full figured, and curvy bodies and to encourage so called plus size models (more realistically normal sized models). But even this is ugly because some of those who set out with this beautiful idea are now spewing horrible comments regarding those who are thin – size 5 and under. Leaving them no better than their counter parts.

Recently there has been some controversy regarding mannequins from Sweden that are actually built like REAL women in varying sizes. I say kudos, but then I read comments on them saying that they are promoting obesity!! Really? They would still be considered smaller than the average American.

I have no idea what the heck people – especially women – think the perfect build is but I am completely baffled and have come to the sad conclusion that point blank many of us females are just judgmental bitches. (I have even caught myself doing it!! OH for shame!). It is never going to change unless we women make the effort to change it….

And that is my rant!!!