I recently started seeing a counsellor. It has been interesting. She has helped to see some of the areas where I am lacking strength. Primarily setting boundaries, I mean I understand that boundaries are needed, I understand their purpose, but for me the problem is defining them and actually reinforcing them. These are areas that I suck at, and therefore I get manipulated and walked over. Really it all boils down to ‘Self Care’. Anyways at my last session she asked me if I was familiar with the ‘Serenity Prayer’, to which I responded “of course I am”. She then suggested that I google it and print out a copy (or 2 or 3) and put it where I can see and to meditate on it every day. This is to help me set realistic boundaries and to make the battles I pick worth fighting. The idea here is that I can then start to find the time and energy to begin a self care regime.
Funny thing it turns out I am not as familiar with the Serenity Prayer as I thought. There is a whole other part that I had never heard before. And it is actually quite beautiful:
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
I like how the prayer reminds me to live one day at a time, one moment at a time. I need to take each day as it comes. I need to appreciate the trials I face because they are there to enable me to work out peace in my life. The prayer tells me I need to find rest, to surrender to God, especially in the face adversity. Life is short so I should live my life happy; it’s a waste for me to be anything else.
I think the timing for this – in the midst of the hectic and stressful Christmas season -couldn’t be better. I need to remember to take a moment each day to just breathe and cleanse and be me.